Understanding the Childhood Grief: What Should We Tell the Children?

Farahnak Assadi


Children will grief when they experience loss of a loved one and parents consoling the child is a part of the circle of life. Although informing the child about the death of a family member has been primarily left to the responsibility of parents, they often avoid communicating with their children about the death of a loved one. This is because the parents are often unaware about how, what, and when the child should be told. This editorial offers tips to help parents learn how to better recognize and help their children grieve if someone they know has died.


Childhood Grief; Child; Parents

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